Originally posted by starshipeleven
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A great example is my dad used to tell me how bad and horrible of a job I was doing, regardless of how good or bad I did it, to "encourage" me to try harder and do better next time. Well, when every time you do anything, try your hardest, and never hear "good job", "great effort", or anything positive, just "It's like you didn't try", "you need to do better", "and next time you should man up", and "gonna cry for your mommy like a little Baby Huey. Hey everyone, look at little Baby Huey crying for his mom", after a while you completely give up and quit trying at all because no matter how hard you try nothing you say or do is ever good enough.
I'm still dealing with depression and trust issues because of that shit and it happened 15+ years ago. Constant negativity for most of one's childhood really sticks with a person...and not in a good way.
If I ever have kids, I might not know the right things to say, but I sure as shit know what not to say. Like, I'm definitely not going to call a 9yo a little Baby Huey because I took a child to a drinking party and the child wanted to leave and asked "Can you call Mom to come get me?".
Um....didn't mean to go that deep so, like, I dunno, quit using Suse, put on your big boy pants, and use Arch...or something
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