And actually if I want her to update from source it's not hard at all, I either provide her with a script, backport the library "prevu that_funy_library", or build the package in a chroot for her (pbuilder-dapper-i386 build that_funy_library-XubuntuX.dsc", assuming I/she can't wait. Else I just request a backport and let people do the job for me.
Basically, you'll always find a situation where X OS is "problematic", especially if you don't know the OS enough. Complaining about it when there's easy solutions and/or you could be helping solving the problem is hardly useful. Hoping that such an attitude is going to miraculously improve the situation only gets you stuck in an ages-old prejudice when other have moved on already.
The way it is, that's basically a non issue, and any package you think can't be installed because of foo library may already be packaged for your system on getdeb, medubuntu or any other click-and-work solution.