I just discovered this
PC-BSD 9-STABLE testing snapshot which includes the new DRM/GEM/KMS work is now available to testers.
I might be in luck it seems their are gallium patches out and they are trying to get KMS into FreeBSD 9.1
any how thanks again at least now I know what to keep track off
I can live with out 3d support for now ( as long as XBMC fires up, it didn't like un accelerated Xnest )